Why You Should Stage Your Home
June 19th, 2008
Question: Why do I feel like a single parent...?
How would you feel and what would you do if your S/O missed your child's:
first coo, laugh, bath [present], roll over [over a friends house because we gotten into a argument] and the first time the baby tried stage one food [he was out helping his father to earn a little bit of cash]. also didn't really care to help selecting a picture for a baby contest [present].
And they were present in the home but were so into the "video game" 4-5 hours out of the day.
I don't know if it's depression from losing a job in August and not being able to find work since. Or if it's just...not caring or laziness. I spend my whole day catering to my daughter's needs. He will help if I ask him, only if I ask him - majority of the time.
I cook, clean and do everything...
Should I move on.... I feel like if the father is present in the household it should be 50/50. Mature advice/opinions please...
she's four months...
Answer: I was a single parent with my son, although the father was present :/ He didnt help at all, he actually quit his job right before i had my son.. so while i was on my very short maternity leave i ended up loosing my car because i had no income. When i went back to work i would come home and find my son in the same diaper i left him in and hungry, while his dad played video games!!! Even though i worked i still had to feed, bathe,clean, and wake up through the night with my son, i eventually just moved into my sons room. His dad actually ended up leaving me when my son was 6 months old... my son had asthma an not once did his dad spend the night in the hospital with me an my son. My son is now about to turn 6, he never calls him comes to see him and never gives me money ever. And its sad cuz my son is always askin about him. Im glad he left now of course, but when i got pregnant with my daughter i had these fears that her dad would do the same, and when he willingly got up with the baby i was confused and felt like i should be the one doing it, and if i wanted to go out with friends i would feel guilty about asking him to watch her, like he wouldnt want too.. i kept saying are you sure its ok.. you dont mind?? He then told me, look Malinda, why do you feel guilty about me watching MY daughter? She is my responsibility too, she is half me. It took me a while to get use to, but now i understand he loves her just as much as i do, and he doesnt look at her as a chore but as his princess and his life, and he loves spending time with her, he is actually a stay at home dad 
I never wanted any kids after my son, because it was so hard doing it by myself, but now that i relize it isnt ONLY the moms job and the dad should help 50/50 hell i could have tons more lol.. its so much easier an nicer to have help and share the experiences with someone else.
[M/V] JYPark - 박진영 "Your House" from [Back to Stage]
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